This four part series discusses each of the Four Life Levels and their impact on attracting the sweetest love you have ever known. The first article discussed the first life level: Self-Expression. This article will discuss the second life level: Relationships
Every relationship you have is influenced by how you feel about yourself independent of anyone else as well as how you express yourself in the world based on this profoundly essential relationship. This is where it all begins. Parents, friends, family, co-workers, even strangers you pass on the street, sit next to on the bus, or stand behind you at the food market have the potential of influencing how you feel in the moment. It is truly amazing how quickly our happy disposition can be transformed into feelings of anger, frustration, humiliation, or fear at the drop of another’s words or actions.
Having said that, how we express ourselves with others is usually a good indicator of how we might show up in a relationship that we want to last a lifetime. How could it be any other way?
If you find yourself taking the behaviors of others to heart, saying yes when you want to say no, need to always have things your way, or have difficulty forgiving yourself or others. . . expressing the other side of these behaviors when you meet someone who makes your heart sing will be almost impossible. In fact, the more important the person is to you, the more likely you will find yourself behaving in ways that do not support the kind of love you want at all, especially when you are confronted with situations or circumstances that stir up negative emotions that you are not sure how to manage, reduce, or resolve.
As you nurture the relationship you have with yourself, the promise of a sweet lasting love is yours, along with healthier relationships with your family, friends, co-workers, and people you have brief encounters with. Not sure where to begin?
Here are 5 tips to help you with that . . .
- Remember who you really are; divine, worthy, valuable
- Identify the behaviors you find yourself participating in that hurt your relationships with others
- Identify what you think and feel before saying or doing something you will later regret or creates anxiety in you
- Be compassionate with yourself as you begin to uncover behaviors that up until now have been preventing you from having the absolute most amazing love you have ever known
- Get grounded and heart focused as you ease back into the truth of who you are before reacting from a place that is impulsive, nonproductive, and the result of past experiences that hurt and you will ultimately regret.
This article contains experts from my book, Find Love and Last! 7 Steps to Attracting the Sweetest Love You Have Ever Known