Have you often wondered, “How do I meet someone I would love to spend the rest of my life? Where do I go, what do I do, how will I know . . .?
I had all of those questions. It wasn’t until I felt worthy of having the kind of love relationship I desired, and accepted that I was a Spiritual being experiencing life through my physical body, and not the aspects of my personality that made me feel otherwise, could I truly experience a sweet love relationship.
I had been asking God, the Universe, for a sweet love for years. When I was finally a vibrational to the love I was seeking I knew it. I knew it because I realized that I already was the love I was seeking. During the time that led up to my finally feeling ready to meet my love for life, I had been peeling away the layers of self-doubt and misperceptions that kept me from living this truth. I met Patrick in the fall of 2003. I was forty seven years old. I actually stated in my book that I was forty eight. That was an error. I was forty seven. I had done the emotional and spiritual work to meet my sweet love. I knew it was time. I felt inspired to get busy. I became more focused and deliberate in my journaling. I regularly practiced meditation, the HeartMath® technique, and visualization. The practice of being inspired me to do things to support the attraction of this man into my life. I knew he was out there somewhere. I didn’t know how we were going to meet, I just felt certain that we would. I was open to and anticipated meeting him everywhere I went. On November 28, 2003 I finally met him.
Here is my story . . .
At the recommendation of my cousin, I joined an internet dating service. More people were meeting their partners on line so why not? I wanted ot create as many opportunities as possible for me to meet the man I had been journaling about, thinking about, and making a part of my life in my heart. I also became a member of the Art Institute Evening Associates and the Single Gourmet. I would go online to see if there were any profiles on men that interested me enough to extend an invitation to meet.
There was one profile. It said he was 45 years old, lived in the city, and wanted to meet someone who had “a cup half full approach” to life. Hmmm. I liked that. The cup half full approach comment. From his picture, I thought he was really good looking, had a nice smile, clear hazel eyes and dark hair. However, you never know how recent photos are, so I did not get too excited with what I saw. Experience had taught me that is was best to just wait and meet the person to avoid potential disappointment.
I decided to write to this person the second week of November. His name was Patrick. I invited him to go to my website. If he liked what he saw I would look forward to hearing from him. If he did not, I wished him well in finding what he was looking for. I had been studying energy medicine for about 4 years at the time and had a private practice as a licensed counselor and energy medicine practitioner. I felt it was important for Patrick to know this about me before we met. Information about the different types of energy medicine as well as counseling and workshops I offered were on my website along with my resume and picture. I thought, “If he calls me after reading all this, at least I know that he knows what I am about and is willing to learn more. If I do not hear from him after he reads my website, I will know that he is not someone I am meant to meet”.
On the Monday before Thanksgiving in 2003, at about 9:00 p.m., the phone rang. “Hello.” A very nice sounding voice came over the phone. He introduced himself as Patrick, the guy from the online dating service. I was excited about Patrick calling me. The conversation was easy. He sounded absolutely wonderful. We laughed a bit and shared basic information about ourselves. I couldn’t believe this was happening. Back and forth we went, feeding off each other’s comments.
We decided to meet that Friday at the Green Mill Lounge in Uptown Chicago.
Friday night came. It was November 28th. I didn’t know what to wear. “Jeans are good. Jeans, sweater, boots and my leather Jacket”. Perfect! It was cold that night. We had plans to meet at 7:30 p.m. I remembered hoping that I wouldn’t arrive before he did, that he would resemble the picture I saw online, and that he would be as nice as he sounded on the phone and in his profile. I ran from my car to the front door. He said he would be seated at the bar. I flung the door open and began scanning the bar for the man in the picture online. There he was! He was reading the paper, he took off his glasses as he turned his attention to the sound of the door. I couldn’t believe how handsome he was. For a moment, I truly felt like time stood still. He was wearing a faded green knit sweater over a black turtle neck and black jeans.
All I could think was, “Oh my God, this is too good to be true, he is too good to be true. He’s so handsome!” I was distracted by his presence. His eyes were much more engaging and not only clear, they were bright and happy. His hair, it was all I could do to keep myself from running my fingers through it. It was wavy and a bit longer in the back. Beautiful. I couldn’t help but notice his smile. Perfect. He was having a beer and offered to buy me a drink. We talked about how Thanksgiving was with our families, what we ate, who was there and how we generally feel about family gatherings. I shared with him that I had brought his picture to dinner.
We talked about online dating and what the experience of joining an online dating service had been for us. He shared that his membership had actually expired three weeks before receiving my email. He stated the online dating service we participated in keeps your membership active so that you can still receive emails. However, in order to respond, you have to rejoin. Patrick continued to receive emails and had not been tempted to renew. When I emailed him, I sent him to my website where he could see my picture and then contact me if he wanted to. As we continued to share information about ourselves, we learned that our birthdays were on the same day of the month, his was July 28 and mine, April 28. We learned that our thoughts and beliefs about relationships, and how we wanted to feel in a relationship with someone were very much in alignment. At one point in our conversation he turned to me and said. “Are you an angel sent by God?”
I did not know how to respond to that and at the same time felt very flattered. I smiled and took a drink of my wine, thinking, “This man has to be the man I have been waiting for all of my life! How could he not be?” After a moment, I recovered from this incredibly beautiful question and reminded myself that I was in a bar with a man I was meeting for the first time who had absolutely no problem letting me know how he felt about me, but I needed to be cautious. This too good to be true feeling was in fact too good to be true, so I resisted falling head over heals in love on our first date. Not an easy task.
At 9:00 p.m. there was live musician a local bar. I offered to pay my own way. Although I could see this was really appreciated, Patrick offered to pay for me. The place was packed. We were still sitting at the bar when the band began to play and had a great view as long as no one stood in front of us.
I could not believe what I saw happening. In spite of people standing shoulder to shoulder throughout the bar, Patrick and I had an unobstructed view from our seats to the stage. It was incredible. The music was great. The evening was wonderful. At one point Patrick turned to me and said, “I hope this doesn’t sound to over the top, but you are giving my heart quite a stir.” I could not believe my ears and at the same time I had been waiting all my life for someone to feel for me what Patrick was feeling for me in that moment. Was this really happening? Did I finally meet the love of my life? Was my search finally over? Was this man really as handsome on the inside as he was on the outside? Yes.
Now for a few tips on how to meet your sweet love. This is what I did and I truly believe it is the only way.
- Know that you are worthy of having the kind of love relationship you have always wanted, and live your life feeling this truth
- As you think about each aspect of your life; your relationship with yourself, your relationships in general, your health, and properity, be aware of the emotions that come up for you. Do you feel good about yourself and how you live your life? If not, give yourself permission to take a look at what may be causing you emotional unease .
- Once you identify whatever it is, you have the power to change or make whatever it is better, and do it.
More to come!
Stop by next week to learn about how the testimonials I have received have made me feel that I have accomplished expressing the message I intended in writing my book.